Ep. 318: Gina Senarighi on Relationships, Granular Pleasures, and the Trouble with Self-Love

This week, I’m joined by Gina Senarighi, relationship coach, retreat leader, speaker, and author specializing in human connection, intimacy, authenticity, shame-resilience, and alternative relationships. Yes. She does a lot and is so smart!

Y'all are for a treat this week as we talk about how to live in relationship with ourselves and others, why putting all your eggs in the self-love basket may not be serving you, how to make the changes in your life (that actually stick!) and do the things that you love (even if you're not sure where to start!), what self-alignment at home and at work looks like and why pleasure is essential -- but shouldn't feel like a daunting endeavor. Enjoy, enjoy!

Things that were said:

"It's the micro changes that we make that builds whatever change we want long term." 

"Our relationships with other people are founded in the relationship we have with our self.”

"Shame never motivates long term behavior change or sustainable changes in people's lives."

"Sometimes learning to love yourself comes in learning along with somebody else." 

"When we start to savor the pleasures that we can add in to our day then it becomes less like all or nothing."

Those Timestamps!

04:44 - Importance of micro changes to make big changes in your life 

08:17 - How your relationship with yourself sets your relationship with others

10:31 - Practical tips to find your way back to yourself

14:05 - How to not shrink yourself in relationships

20:46 - Self-alignment at work and at home

27:38 - Exercises for self-checking

30:18 - How to take action on things that will make you feel better

36:34 - Why chasing self-love before thinking about relationships may not be serving you

38:11 - Ways to improve motivation and reliability in the things you do

45:23 - Permission to pleasure amidst our busy lives

Show Notes:

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