The Tiffany Han Show (formerly Raise Your Hand Say Yes)

This week, I’m joined by Gina Senarighi, relationship coach, retreat leader, speaker, and author specializing in human connection, intimacy, authenticity, shame-resilience, and alternative relationships. Yes. She does a lot and is so smart!

Y'all are for a treat this week as we talk about how to live in relationship with ourselves and others, why putting all your eggs in the self-love basket may not be serving you, how to make the changes in your life (that actually stick!) and do the things that you love (even if you're not sure where to start!), what self-alignment at home and at work looks like and why pleasure is essential -- but shouldn't feel like a daunting endeavor. Enjoy, enjoy!

Things that were said:

"It's the micro changes that we make that builds whatever change we want long term." 

"Our relationships with other people are founded in the relationship we have with our self.”

"Shame never motivates long term behavior change or sustainable changes in people's lives."

"Sometimes learning to love yourself comes in learning along with somebody else." 

"When we start to savor the pleasures that we can add in to our day then it becomes less like all or nothing."

Those Timestamps!

04:44 - Importance of micro changes to make big changes in your life 

08:17 - How your relationship with yourself sets your relationship with others

10:31 - Practical tips to find your way back to yourself

14:05 - How to not shrink yourself in relationships

20:46 - Self-alignment at work and at home

27:38 - Exercises for self-checking

30:18 - How to take action on things that will make you feel better

36:34 - Why chasing self-love before thinking about relationships may not be serving you

38:11 - Ways to improve motivation and reliability in the things you do

45:23 - Permission to pleasure amidst our busy lives

Show Notes:

Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz

Connect with Gina:
Site | Instagram | Facebook

Gina's podcast: Swoon

Direct download: Raise_Your_Hand_Say_Yes_138.mp3
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This week, I'm taking a walk down memory lane to look at the things I've gotten wrong (some WAAAAAY wrong) in the past 5.5 years of doing this podcast.

You'll hear my revelations on risk, self-care and burnout, tackling big goals, pleasure, and how everything (annoyingly so!!) starts at home. (I'll also share what I mean by that!)

Aaaaand you'll hear me talk about why I'm comfortable sharing this list and what I'm doing about these revelations. Because this learning is part of the process and just because I've gotten things wrong in the past doesn't mean I can't keep going and bring my learning along with me!

Episode Quotes

"We cannot just say YES to the risk without also saying YES to the reverence."

"There is something really beautiful about realizing that you are stronger without the shield of all the things you've convinced yourself make you stronger."

"Self-care is a daily and ongoing devotion to yourself and the things you want to do."

"Pleasure and delight are not frivolous."

"The things that you want to do all starts with YOU and how are you showing up to yourself."

"It's not about what you are doing, it's about who are you being."

"The fix may not be quick, may not be comfortable, but it is available. Are you willing to show up anyway?"

Timestamps

07:45—What I got wrong about embracing risks

20:07—Rethinking Self-care & Burnout

30:08—The value of going deeper (and what I'd missed before!)

36:47—Confession: I'm a bit of a 'ping-ponger' (and the value of holding your course)

40:04—Everything starts at home...and how you can apply this learning to your life!

Show Notes:

Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz

Untamed by Glennon Doyle

Direct download: Raise_Your_Hand_Say_Yes_137.mp3
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I’m so excited to chat again with Laura Jane Williams. She was one of my lovely guests over a year ago when I was doing my Money, Sex, Freedom series, where we talked about worth, parenting, and some sex stuff too.  

In this episode, you’ll hear us talking about writing, being an author, LJ’s books ‘Our Stop’ and ‘The Love Square’, social media and friendships, how unplugging from Instagram allowed her to like her friends more and be a better friend, Instagram boundaries, telling the truth about your life, and permission to feel pleasure and delight. 

Show Notes: 

Connect with Laura Jane Williams:
Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook

Laura Jane's earlier RYHSY episode

RYHSY episode on Impulse vs Fact

Laura Jane's books:

Becoming

Kidding

Our Stop

The Love Square

Direct download: Raise_Your_Hand_Say_Yes_316.mp3
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How do you build an entire handmade clothing empire out of a New Year's Day dare? That's exactly where my conversation with Tilly Walnes, of Tilly and the Buttons, starts.

In this episode, you'll hear us talk about how she took sewing from hobby to business, how to maintain the spark for any creative endeavor, what to do if you want to make something but just cannot find the time (ahem...you'll hear me commit to something that I 100% didn't follow through on!), and how to get over the initial hurdles of getting started.

(And let me know if you want to be accountability buddies on making something from Tilly's new book!)

Show Notes: 

Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz

Connect with Tilly:
Site | Instagram | Facebook | Pinterest

Tilly's Books:

Tilly and the Buttons: Make it Simple: Easy, Speedy Sewing Projects to Stitch up in an Afternoon

Tilly and the Buttons: Stretch!: Make Yourself Comfortable Sewing with Knit Fabrics

Love at First Stitch: Demystifying Dressmaking

Direct download: 315_-_Tilly_Walnes.mp3
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