Tue, 29 December 2020
In a world full of people telling us how they can revolutionize our businesses and that we need to leap and hope with all we have that our nets will appear, how can we be so sure that the move we're going to make is The Right One? This week, I'm taking you through my journey (starting Freshman year in college) of so many Raise Your Hand Say Yes career moves that eventually got me to the place of starting my coaching practice, going full time, and starting this podcast. There are twists. And turns. And backtracks. And pivots. As is to be expected by life. But, there was also so much learning - which I'll share as well. Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy, and remember: you're doing great. You're not alone. Keep going. What I Said: "We are meant to evolve, and sometimes we evolve beyond the confines of our current situation." "How to start from scratch? You just start." "You are capable of more than you realize." "If you're on the precipice of something and you feel that nervous excitement, it is okay to take a small step." "Don't let that questioning convince you not to take the step because it's the step that makes all the difference." Those Timestamps: 03:16 - Episode intro... 06:45 - A look back to my college life 17:39 - My first 'official' job 26:50 - The move to San Francisco... and creative discovery 35:31 - Teahouse studio, coaching, and blogging 46:13 - Going full-time with coaching & podcasting |
Tue, 22 December 2020
Whether you're ready to dive headfirst into the new year or you're still trying to wrap up the last one, I've got you covered with this episode. We're going to talk about endings, beginnings, and the questions I want you to consider as you think about the start of the year. (And also: wherever you are is beautiful and wonderful. YOU ARE DOING GREAT.) Aaaand in case you need them for reference, here are the questions for you to consider: *How do you want to feel? *Where are you finding meaning? *What's going to bring you peace? *What are you ready to release? *What are you ready to find your way back to? What I Said: "Beating yourself up in order to live your best life doesn't work." "The thing that brings you peace might also bring with it some temporary disruption." "Transformation hangs in you doing the work to get to the bottom of where you want to be." Those Timestamps: 03:25 - Cycle of consumption - "The Skittles aren't good enough anymore." 08:56 - When (and how often) should you do evaluations 17:01 - Relation of beginnings and endings 21:26 - The idea of embracing grace 26:31 - #1: How do you want to feel? 32:33 - #2: Where are you finding meaning? 37:12 - #3: What's going to bring you peace? 39:37 - #4: What are you ready to release? 40:53 - #5: What are you ready to find your way back to? Show Notes: New Training! 1/12/2021: How to Be (So You Can Do!) Connect with Tiffany on Insta (https://www.instagram.com/thetiffanyhan/) Get Tiffany's newsletter and stay in the know (http://tiffanyhan.com) |
Tue, 15 December 2020
What do you think about when you hear the word "enough?" In this episode, I’m going to tackle what I see as two different (and often competing!) realms of being and doing enough and then offer ways to help you redefine the word according to your own standards. (Amen and hallelujah to that, right?!) First: Am I enough? This is all about YOU and how it feels to be you in your life and showing up to yourself. Second: Am I doing enough? AKA why having a strong value of service does not mean you have to sacrifice your humanity in order to show up for the world. I also cover the power of your values, self-alignment, the importance of not measuring your worth based on somebody else's standards, and why those tiny little steps are the way to start. Oh! And then I wrap it all up with talk of seeds, harvest, and how to make an orchard with your life. Things I Said: "If an idea won't leave you alone, it's a sign that you are the person being gifted with that dream." "Being of service does not mean that you have to sacrifice your humanity." "The only starts that we can make are small starts...one step at time." "Don't let that voice that tells you 'You are not doing enough' keep you from doing anything at all." Those Timestamps: 04:30 - The realm of 'being enough' 14:16 - Reckoning with discomfort 18:14 - The realm of 'doing enough' 21:58 - Values and self-alignment as a compass 25:31 - Who's deciding what you're capable of? 31:17 - The power of small steps 34:46 - The apple seed metaphor Show Notes: Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz Get on the early-bird notification list for the RYHSY Inner Circle |
Tue, 8 December 2020
This week, I'm talking about some signs you can look for to show you that you're on the right track and why they might be different than the ones you're currently watching for! Being on the right track might be creating something new, but it might also be just listening to your longings. And so it’s critical to know whether - “Should I keep going?” or “Should I quit?” – especially if the road feels so rocky. So today, I’m giving you 6 Signs You're On the Right Track – and right track means the things that you want to say YES to... or it might also be the things that you are ready to say NO to. Things I said: "Having doubts means you are changing your perception and the way you show up." "Pay attention who you are telling your ideas to." "If it is meant for you ,it will keep showing up." "Rocky roads aren't roadblocks. They don't mean that you have to stop. They're just a sign that you are moving forward." Those Timestamps 00:35 – What 'being on the right track' truly means 05:03 - #1: You have doubts 09:50 - #2: It makes you nervous 14:09 - #3: Your inner critic shows up 16:47 - #4: People around you don't get it 22:30 - #5: You're nervous to talk about it 27:33 - #6: You feel an overwhelming pull to move forward Show Notes: |
Tue, 1 December 2020
When was the last time you woke up feeling like you were excited to dive into your day? If you're not sure, you might be suffering from burnout. In this week's episode, I'm sharing the 12 phases of burnout (as developed by psychologists!) and talking about why I think—as hand raisers and yes sayers—we're especially prone to burning ourselves out. I'm also sharing one of my favorite super-easy-to-start-using tools for beginning to move yourself beyond burnout. What I Said: "The answer to moving beyond burnout is never that you need to work harder." "If we say ‘yes’ without saying ‘no,’ then we are just saying ‘yes’ to everything, and that’s not going to work" "We often hang out in the early stages of burnout and don’t think there is anything wrong with that." "Moving forward does not mean we have to sacrifice ourselves.” Those Timestamps 04:30 - The 12 phases of burnout 06:35 - Excess of ambition 08:30 - displacement of conflict 09:46 - Denial of problems 10:57 - Getting out of the early stages of burnout 12:25 - Moving forward and chill out at the same time 16:01 - Start practicing a pause 19:11 - Those (entertainment) systems are working against us. Show Notes: Get the Core Values Masterclass (half off through 12/4!) |
Tue, 24 November 2020
Tell me this: would you avoid anything in the world to feel needy? Do you want to go deeper into your desires but feel selfish in doing so? Are you so accustomed to taking care of everyone else around you that you never have any time left for yourself? Sweets, pull up a chair because this vintage episode with life coach and host of the Needy podcast, Mara Glatzel is going to be balm for your soul. I wanted to have Mara back on early in the Money, Sex, Freedom series so we could talk about how wanting more for yourself in those areas is totally okay and also SUPER ENCOURAGED. And, newsflash: having needs doesn't mean you're faulty or a failure. It means you're human! (WHOA.) Dive in. It's so good. (Mara, thank you. You are a gift.) What She Said: "It is both essential and normal to have needs." "Having your needs met makes you so much better at everything you do." "If we can't make space for taking care of ourselves then we can't bring a full version of ourselves to anything that we do." "When you lack trust in something, you create a lot of rules around it." Those Timestamps: 02:35 - Core Values Masterclass - Special Sale!!! 06:35 - The Needy podcast... and what it means being 'needy' 15:11 - Honoring and taking care of our needs 22:46 - How to reconcile your needs and your service to people 30:56 - Most loving way to cultivate trust for yourself 37:26 - The beauty of prioritizing your needs - "You're the vessel for the service" 49:32 - Knowing yourself... Knowing your needs 01:01:22 - Note to remember: Nobody is an exception. Everyone has needs. Show Notes: Black Friday sale on the Core Values Masterclass! Connect with Mara: |
Tue, 17 November 2020
I loved talking with Natalie Lue for this week's vintage episode and we covered so much ground, including: habits (and relationships!) that aren't serving you, how to step beyond those well-worn patterns, drama and our addiction to it, and how people-pleasing is actually a manipulation (SAY WHAT?!). We also covered identities that don't serve us, letting other people dim our light, and why having emotional baggage doesn't mean anything other than that we're human. Natalie blew my mind in this episode and I think you'll love it! What She Said: "Patterns happen when we're living unconsciously, and that means we’re not living who we are." "We're so used to giving ourselves a hard time that we often chase things that deep down we don't want." "Sometimes we want something so badly it feels like a need but it isn't." "People pleasing masks a hidden agenda... Being honest about what our reasons are could be a real game-changer." "Adulthood is about unlearning all of the harmful and unproductive stuff that we pick up along the way." "We have to take the journey and go through whatever we need to experience to learn what we need to learn." Those Timestamps: 04:04 - Recognizing and letting go of old identities, habits, emotional baggage 13:44 - Taming your inner critic and silencing the negativity 19:19 - How to stop people-pleasing and start being/doing you 24:50 - Living with intention, Getting out of that autopilot life 31:06 - The manipulative power of people-pleasing 42:43 - Ways to halt the habit of being hard on yourself 57:45 - Who's deciding what you're capable of? (Updated You vs. Outdated You) 1:00:05 - Why the journey and the experience matters Show Notes: Get Tiffany's newsletter and stay in the know Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz! |
Tue, 10 November 2020
The big question we're tackling this week in this vintage episode is this: how do you proceed towards the life you want to live when your pesky brain keeps getting in the way with the fear and the doubt and those sneaky impulses? (Related: how do you get yourself to do the things that matter most to you when, in the moment, you just don't want to!?) (Also related: if you experience this, YOU ARE NOT ALONE.) Dig into this week's episode to hear about why I want you to ignore your brain and what to focus on instead!! What I Said: "We build resilience, confidence, and progress through action." "The answer is not to have it all figured out. It's knowing enough and having the faith to willingly take the next step." "The impulse is not the authority of your life. You are!" Those Timestamps: 04:05 - How to learn not to listen to your "brain" 15:27 - Shrinking the recovery time between the impulse to the fact 24:23 - A commitment to sobriety and recovery 29:31 - How to show up differently...and with integrity 32:35 - Listening to the voices that are of authority in our life |
Tue, 3 November 2020
"I'm not good enough. I'm not ready. I don't belong here." These are just a few of the things the Imposter Complex would have us believe (yes! there's a name for that!) and this week I'm thrilled to have life coach and Imposter Complex expert Tanya Geisler back on the podcast to talk all about the Imposter Complex. In this vintage episode, you'll hear what it is, how it shows up, what it means if you experience these things (it's good, I promise!) and how you can move beyond it to get all those things you want for your life (looking at you money, sex, and freedom!). What She Said: "Every great thing that we've ever done has been by feeling that fear and doing it anyway." "The ego wants to want more than it wants to get." "We have to have areas in our life where there has to be relief—where you can just rest and not have to be the best at things." Those Timestamps 03:27 - What is imposter complex? Who experiences it? Show Notes: Get Tiffany's newsletter and stay in the know Connect with Tanya: |
Tue, 27 October 2020
Money, money, money! It's uncomfortable and necessary to talk about. This week, I'm bringing back a conversation with my former business coach Lena West to dive straight into the most-uncomfortable parts of the money conversation, including: why we show up the way we do around money, what's beyond the "charge what you're worth" mantra, how to deal with money discomfort (and why it probably won't go away!), why striving to just be nice is bullshit, what happens when the people in your life aren't supportive of your endeavors, how to know what to charge, and SO MUCH MORE! Lena is all heart and no bullshit and will shake up your beliefs around money in the best way! Enjoy, enjoy! What She Said: "The amount of money is not the point. It's about what is non-negotiable for you and standing in that." "Getting to 5, 6, 7-figures in your business isn't a walk in the park." "The money has to have a meaning; otherwise it's just some arbitrary nonsense." "Don't share dreams with people who don't have any... share your dreams with dreamers and doers." Those Timestamps: 03:49 - Women & Money: Valuing ourselves and money discomfort Show Notes: |
Tue, 20 October 2020
Y'all! I'm taking a break! Whuuuuuut? Yes! After over 6 years of producing (at least) weekly episodes for this show, I'm talking a wee break, and in this week's episode, I'm sharing why I'm pausing now, what that's going to look like for the podcast, and how you can take a break as well. Listen this week to find out the practical things I'll be doing during my break (because I have to make it as useful as possible, don't I? lol.) as well as the ways I'm holding space for myself. Aaaaaand you'll get to hear a little bit about what might be coming down the track for RYHSY. A new podcast name?! Maybe, just maybe. WHO EVEN KNOWS ANYTHING ANYMORE??? Oh! If you're already wondering when new episodes will be coming, don't fret! I've got a bunch of my faves queued up for your ears while I'm away!! What I said: "Just because you can keep going doesn't mean you should." "Your break doesn't have to be all or nothing." "Let 'I don’t know' be normal. Accept it for where you are right now instead of working harder and pushing more." Those Timestamps: 01:55 - Importance of breaks... and why I'm taking one Show Notes: Sign up for Tiffany's Newsletter |
Tue, 13 October 2020
Hey everyone! I’m so excited to have Ann Shen on the show again! She is an illustrator, hand letterer, and bestselling author of three books and today, we're talking about Ann's new book ‘Nevertheless, She Wore It’ which is all about how fashion is a tool for resistance and empowerment. In this episode, we talk about finding your own power and voice, looking for ways to relax, recover, express your best self in this firehose of a time that we’re in right now. And baking! We talk all about baking! Enjoy, enjoy! What She Said: "I can conquer anything when I put on the costume of my best self." "We are in control of how we portray ourselves." "Your worth does not come from external validations or numbers that can be quantified." Those Timestamps: 00:44 - Where we are now... Firehose of a time Show Notes: Connect with Ann: Site | Instagram | Twitter | Pinterest Ann's Books: Ann's Previous RYHSY Episodes: Ep. 114: Ann Shen on Reinvention Ep. 115: Ann Shen on Security Ep. 188: Ann Shen on Finding (and Managing) (and Seeking) Success Ep. 234: Ann Shen on Rest, Routines, and Resetting For The Love of Men by Liz Plank Molly J. Wilkerson (virtual pastry classes!) Congresswoman Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez's Getting Ready Routine via Vogue |
Tue, 6 October 2020
Have you found yourself down the rabbit hole of social media lately? This week, I'm tackling doomscrolling and looking at how you can take strides towards less social media consumption and why it's important to do so. I’ll be giving things to keep in mind about what social media is giving us these days, practical things that you can do to stop ‘doomscrolling’, why it doesn’t mean that you are bad person spending time in these apps, and the power of setting hard limits and letting go of the ‘all or nothing’ mindset as you regain power over your time. What I said: "Things start to change when we are willing to tell ourselves the truth." "Setting the boundary is the easy part. Maintaining the boundary is the hard part." "Be willing to set hard limits for yourself to break the habits." Those Timestamps: 00:48 - Doomscrolling... and social media consumption dilemma Show Notes: Hidden Brain podcast: Passion Isn't Enough: The Rise Of 'Political Hobbyism' in the United States Apps + Online Tools for Finding Focus: |
Tue, 29 September 2020
This week, I'm talking about what to do when you find yourself either wanting something to change, recognizing that something's not working, or recognizing that you don't know where to go next. Picking up a thread from my conversation last week with Rob Bell (and his new book Everything is Spiritual), I want to examine the question/prayer/mantra "Now what?" and show how we can work with it to get the clarity we're after. If you're not sure what’s next or still figuring out the next steps in the life that you want, this episode is for you! I share what it means to keep going, how to find clarity, why anger is okay, and what embracing curiosity and grace can bring to your life. What I said: "The reason that I have 336 episodes is I kept going." "Prayer is a powerful tool." "What we need to be aware of is what’s on the other side of anger." "The knowing will lead you to curiosity, and curiosity will lead you to clarity." Those Timestamps 00:35 - What it means to actually "keep going" Show Notes: Applications are open for the Inner Circle until 11:59 PST on Thursday, October 1! Everything is Spiritual by Rob Bell RYHSY Ep. 335: Rob Bell on Everything is Spiritual and Apocalyptic Hope |
Tue, 22 September 2020
In his new book, Everything is Spiritual: Who We Are and What We're Doing Here, New York Times bestselling author Rob Bell explores the endless dynamic questions and connections that have shaped his life, providing powerful insight into understanding one's purpose and place in the world. And I am thrilled to be in conversation with him this week. Listen in to hear me and Rob talk about his 11th book (!!), the nature of life, why "looking for" spirit is playing the wrong game, why hope needs to be apocalyptic, the problem with all those ladders we've gotten really good at climbing, and what's important to know about boredom and death. Rob Bell has been one of my greatest teachers and I'm so excited to introduce him to you! PS. Applications for the RYHSY Inner Circle close on Friday 9/25! Get all the details here! What He Said: "The elimination of obstacles, barriers, and discomfort is a recipe for boredom." "Spirit is often lurking in whatever you most dislike." "I want people to experience the wonder and awe of their own existence." "Having your palms up to let go is the only way you can receive anything." Those Timestamps: 00:35 - Unfolding why 'Everything is Spiritual' Show Notes: Applications are open for the Inner Circle! Connect with Rob: Site | Podcast | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook Rob's new book: Everything is Spiritual |
Tue, 15 September 2020
This week, I'm in conversation with creative coach, explorer, educator, designer, and Inner Circler Anne Ditmeyer. Listen in to hear us talk about being uncool, giving yourself permission to be ridiculous, why getting lost is a good thing, what happens when you keep saying yes to opportunity, why you're allowed to seek out joy even during a pandemic, and the power of using creativity to solve problems. We also talk about her experience in the Inner Circle (applications are now open!), so if you're curious about what's available there, have a listen! What She Said: "I want to be as uncool as possible." “Nobody acknowledges how much time content takes to create”. "What are those stories that aren't told?" "Make it human." “The value comes from people who are not like us.” “Get lost on purpose; there are multiple ways to reach a destination.” "Drawing on a banana is the new standard." "Be ridiculous." Those Timestamps: 09:00 - The creative process is messy Show Notes: Applications are open for the Inner Circle! Connect with Anne: Site | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook Anne's Happy Exploring in 2020 New Year's Card Christine Herrin's Everyday Explorers Book: Wired to Create: Unraveling the Mysteries of the Creative Mind by Scott Barry Kaufman Book: The Journey is the Destination: The Journals of Dan Eldon |
Mon, 14 September 2020
I've got a bonus episode for you today because applications are officially open for the upcoming starting-on-October-1 round of my year-long Raise Your Hand Say Yes Inner Circle experience! Ready to go? Get all the details and application here: https://raiseyourhandsayyes.com In this episode, I walk you through my vision for this experience, why it's structured the way it is, what it will bring to your life, and what's really going on if your first question is, "how much time will it take?" Applications are open through 9/25, but if you know you're in, don't dilly dally as I will close applications early if the program fills. GET THE DETAILS: https://raiseyourhandsayyes.com Have a q about the course? Email me at bonjour@tiffanyhan.com or DM me on Instagram (https://instagram.com/thetiffanyhan)
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Tue, 8 September 2020
I am so excited to be talking with one of my current Inner Circlers Gillian Freeman, of Pen & Thimble, this week! Gillian creates handmade, eco-friendly products for her business and is a busy mom of 2. In this episode, we talk about her experience in the Inner Circle, what brought her to the work, what she learned about pausing and taking breaks, and why she didn't really believe that what's happened for her was possible (but it was!). We also talk about how things changed for her along the way, why she's taken up a new hobby, and where she's looking next. Applications open Monday 9/14 for the next round of the Raise Your Hand Say Yes Inner Circle (we start October 1!) and if you're wondering if it's a good fit for you, Gillian's story will be helpful so you can see what's available! What She Said: "Success that's built on a foundation of burnout is not success." "It's not just about the business but who you are as a person - what you believe and what you want." "You don't have to put all of your ambition on hold in order to feel good in your life." "Whatever you need to do, start now... It's a journey." Those Timestamps: 07:18 - Not being a robot Show Notes: RSVP for the free September 8-10 Choose Yourself Challenge The Raise Your Hand Say Yes Inner Circle Connect with Gillian: |
Tue, 1 September 2020
Yes. Raising your hand and saying yes to what you want for your life is going to require time and energy. And you might have precious little of it (hey! There's a free challenge for that!). But this week, I'm talking through all the things that not following through on what we want for our lives is costing us. And what I know is that it's time for us to shift our standards of what's acceptable. To stop letting doubt make our decisions. To take a stand for what we want even when circumstances are less than ideal. Overcoming inertia will always be a challenge. It will only get harder the longer you wait. And those things keeping you up at night? They aren't going anywhere. So what would happen if you started investing in yourself. (Yes. Even right now.) In this episode, you'll hear me talk about helping you set a foundation of being yourself in your life. Showing up to everything as the single version of you. Living on the outside as who you know you're ready to be on the inside. It's bold and brave and beautiful. Let's go. What I Said: "Your pre-COVID life was too much. No wonder you don't know where to put yourself right now." "Continuous improvement is not your life's purpose." "Staying where you know you don't want to be is never going to help get you what you want." "I'm asking you to step into simultaneously easing up on yourself and holding the entire world to a higher standard of what's okay and acceptable." "Long-term stress is killing us." "Extreme dissatisfaction can be an impetus for change." "The resistance keeping you still is only going to get louder the longer you wait." Those Timestamps: 04:57 - The unseen cost of not saying yes to yourself 13:36 - Knowing when to start looking for something else 20:04 - Extreme dissatisfaction and overcoming resistance 29:17 - The power of rest and slowing down 35:36 - Taking a step closer every day 38:35 - Are you playing the game you want to win? 43:31 - How to start making your shift Show Notes: |
Tue, 25 August 2020
This week, I'm kicking off Season 8 with Glennon Doyle! Glennon is a New York Times Bestselling author, an activist and thought leader, and is the founder and president of Together Rising, an all-women led nonprofit organization that has revolutionized grassroots philanthropy – raising over $25 Million for women, families, and children in crisis. In this conversation, we talk about Glennon's new book Untamed (it's ESSENTIAL READING y'all!), and cover the following: doubt, faith, what's required before you can really take care of yourself, how to consider what the most true and beautiful version of your life is, why permission to change your own mind is critical, and how you can find your own "there she is" moment. What Glennon Said: "May our dreams become our plans." "Faith is a belief in the unseen order of things." "It's impossible to take care of yourself and your family if you don't first untame." "There is no construction of the new without destruction of the old." "The goal of family is to create a community where everybody gets to bring their full self to the table." "Truth is kindness even if it makes people uncomfortable." Listen to Learn: 08:09 - Living the truest most beautiful life (and how this is available to everyone) 14:38 - Believing in the unseen order of things and how to hold onto that faith when things feel rocky 18:29 - How Glennon deals with doubt (yes! She has it too!) 22:46 - Permission to change your mind and why it's a hard thing to think about 27:50 - Living an 'untamed' life (The cheetah story) and how we're thinking of our goals all wrong 36:47 - Overcoming the fear of rocking the boat 46:39 - How Truth-Telling the truth is kindness 54:14 - Finding that 'there she is' moment (and how it might be different from what you think!) Show Notes: Get on the early-bird notification list for the RYHSY Inner Circle Submit a q or topic idea for a future podcast episode Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz Connect with Glennon: Site | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook Glennon's books: Untamed | Love Warrior | Carry on, Warrior We are the Luckiest by Laura McKowen Laura McKowen on RYHSY: Finding your Bigger Yes Laura McKowen on RYHSY: Telling the Truth. Out loud. Nat Lue on RYHSY: Boundaries, Emotions, and the Dark Side (!) of People Pleasing Nat Lue on RYHSY: Relationships, Bandwidth, Anxiety, and Respect |
Tue, 18 August 2020
Do you need rest or to work harder? Should you focus on your end goal or stay present to what you need right now? Is what you're doing too much or not enough? This week, I'm diving into how learning to live within contradictions instead of either/or thinking can help us both more forward towards our goals and feel better within our days. What I said: "Step into the breadth of everything that is in the IN-BETWEEN instead of thinking about things as EITHER-OR." "The point of having goals is to help you decide your very first step of action, not put you on a forever-path." "Building relationships with people does not mean that you have to sacrifice who you are." "Maybe it's the all-or-nothing thinking and not your failing as a human that's keeping you stuck." Those Timestamps: 00:28 - Living in the contradictions Show Notes: Get on the early-bird notification list for the RYHSY Inner Circle |
Tue, 11 August 2020
This week, I'm releasing the audio of my recent How to Have the Life You Want training (click here to get the video replay and catch the slides!). You're just 10 quick and easy steps away from the life you want!! That's how this works, right? Instead of promising formulas and rules, in this training, I cover 10 different guidelines, perspectives, and tips to help you figure out your own next steps towards the life you want, not the one the rest of the world thinks you should have. Freedom. Connection. Ease. Faith. Grace. I want all of those for you every single day. Let's get going. Things I Said: "The small things count just as much as the big things." "You've got to be willing and able to let yourself be human. You're not a ROBOT." "It is not your life's purpose to deny your humanity in honor of your ambition." "We don't have to overperform our way through our days to have the lives that we want." "Grace is that ability to get it wrong, learn, and keep going." Those Timestamps: 05:14 - Overview of How to Have The Life You Want 08:45 - A little bit about me... (life & mission) 12:42 - The BIG/SMALL things I've done to live the life I want 23:50 - Why it's critical to live under an umbrella of grace 25:55 - #1: Forgive yourself for being human 28:56 - #2: The What and Why of H.A.L.T. 30:40 - #3: Be a farmer...and how to trust the seeds you plant 34:41 - #4: You are not lazy 36:55 - #5: Commit to the relentless pursuit of figuring out what you want 41:30 - #6: Practice questioning everything 44:12 - #7: Let it be YOUR life 47:48 - #8: Accept the annoying and inconvenient parts 50:23 - #9: Expect backsliding 54:00 - #10: Faith. And patience. Again and again and again. 56:14 - Significance of grace and self-agency 01:00:48 - What's next??? Show Notes: |
Tue, 4 August 2020
This week, I'm answering a listener question (hi Susan!) about how to embody and live into one's values, but I'm also taking this question deeper to talk about how to get started in bridging the divide between where you are now and where you want to be, even if (and especially when!) that divide feels overwhelming and insurmountable! I also share how you might be treating those seeds you're planting so unfairly and what to do instead as well as give some personal-for-your-agency-archetype advice for each type. (I feel like I took myself to church on this one; thank you for your question, Susan! It inspired so much!) What I said: "When it comes to embodying values, our job is to stay really fluid, nimble, and open." "If we keep taking steps, those steps might take us somewhere surprising." "If you are not embodying your own values, you're embodying somebody else's." "Commit to using your values as your compass even if everyone else seems to be loving some totally-jacked-but-socially-acceptable-enough compass to guide their lives." "The answer to getting to where you want to be is not to stay where you don't want to be." Those Timestamps: 06:11 - How to get started with a values list 08:16 - Commit to imperfect and uncomfortable action 12:47 - How small steps can be a game-changer for you 18:17 - Values as a compass 24:20 - Crossing the divide between where you are and where you want to be AND how to approach this considering your Agency Archetype 30:08 - Destruction as an unbuilding Show Notes:
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Tue, 28 July 2020
It's easy to think of destruction as something negative (and thus to be feared). And our fear around it often limits us and keeps us stuck. Today, I’m showing a different perspective of destruction, one that can be used to embrace it as a way of unbuilding and a chipping away of things as we rebuild our lives. Tune in as I talk about the power of destruction, when it is a positive thing, how to welcome unbuilding in your life, where to start in the rebuilding and how to have faith in your personal agency. Enjoy! What I said: "You can simultaneously be grateful for what you have and want things to be different and better." "If you live on a tightrope but are always clinging to the edge, you have nowhere to go." "If we let fear run our lives and make our decisions, the thing that we're most afraid of usually becomes true." Those Timestamps: 04:19 - The fear of destruction 12:27 - Self-fulfilling prophecy of fear, The limiting power of fear 17:46 - Unbuilding: Why destruction isn't always a bad thing 22:10 - Chipping away and welcoming destruction 27:14 - Faith in your personal agency Show Notes: |
Tue, 21 July 2020
How do you grapple with uncertainty? How do you find your footing when the only thing that feels guaranteed right now is chaos? How do you step into faith when keeping all your current balls in the air feels overwhelming? This week, I walk you through juggling the unknowns. We are going to talk about moving forward during uncertainty, decision making and why you need to trust yourself, the value of constantly refilling your well, practicing self-care, and how to find faith amidst the unknown. And a simple reminder: your job is not to have all the answers. Your job is to have faith. What I Said: "It's important that you refill yourself so that you have the energy to fully show up." "Difficulties don't mean you are doing things wrong; it is part of what shows that you are doing them right." "There is nothing wrong with not knowing. Stop looking for the absolute Right Answer." "Faith takes practice (and an ongoing commitment to something you can't see)." Those Timestamps: 02:45 - How to move forward in uncertain times 13:18 - Decision making, discernment, and trusting yourself 19:59 - The 'absolute right answer' dilemma 24:22 - How to start finding faith in the unknown Show Notes: |
Tue, 14 July 2020
This week, I'm talking all things self-care with Vanessa Mentor, coach, teacher and the creator of Living Unrestrained. As an advocate of self-care, Vanessa helps people re-learn how to give without over-giving and love without people-pleasing so they can live the life they say they want. In this episode, Vanessa and I tackle sanity and self-care, being fierce in attending to yourself and your needs, pausing and easing, how to reframe busyness into intentional choices, and what it truly means to be generous. We also talk about how self-care is a radical act that's especially needed right now and flip a few things you might be thinking about taking care of yourself on their head! Episode Quotes: "Self-care is a set of learnable skills that starts with self-awareness." "If you want to help somebody, get yourself together." - Wendy Palmer "True self-care can never be selfish nor indulgent." "By caring for ourselves, we increase our capacity." "Self-care allows us to activate our sovereignty. Every day." Those Timestamps: 04:42 - Sanity, self-awareness, self-care 10:36 - Self-care tips when life is busy 18:33 - The power of pausing and self-generosity 28:08 - What it (really) means to be generous 33:51 - Ways to start practicing self-care 40:45 - How ease can actually lead to more power 50:33 - The feminine self-care: now not later Show Notes: |
Tue, 7 July 2020
This week, I'm talking about guilt. The guilt of letting people down we try to avoid. The guilt of living out of alignment we try to avoid. The guilt of not doing "enough" we try to avoid. (Yeah. Can you see a theme here?) In this episode, I'm sharing how to grapple with all of that guilt, the importance of being rooted and grounded in yourself, understanding your core values and what matters most to you, and what it means to live a life in alignment with your values. (And, why, at the end of the day, guilt isn't the most important thing to pay attention to.) What I said: "Challenges don't mean it is bad or that you shouldn't be there. Often it means that we are on the right track." "The moment of guilt doesn't have to define our character." "When we get grounded in ourselves, we are less likely to live at the whims of trends." "It is essential that you are aware of your own unique set of core values." "There is a deeper peace and freedom when we live in a way that is in alignment with our values." Those Timestamps 02:36 - Summer Learning Lab coming soon 04:26 – Recognize that there's not 100% unbumpy solution 09:38 - The ‘helicopter’ approach to guilt management 14:59 - Get Rooted! Be your own anchor 21:15 - Understand what matters most to you 26:43 - Faith and integrity 29:21 - Be willing to have constant interventions with yourself Show Notes: |
Tue, 30 June 2020
What do you think about when you hear the word "enough?" In this episode, I’m going to tackle what I see as two different (and often competing!) realms of being and doing enough and then offer ways to help you redefine the word according to your own standards. (Amen and hallelujah to that, right?!) First: Am I enough? This is all about YOU and how it feels to be you in your life and showing up to yourself. Second: Am I doing enough? AKA why having a strong value of service does not mean you have to sacrifice your humanity in order to show up for the world. I also cover the power of your values, self-alignment, the importance of not measuring your worth based on somebody else's standards, and why those tiny little steps are the way to start. Oh! And then I wrap it all up with talk of seeds, harvest, and how to make an orchard with your life. Things I said: "Live your life and prove to yourself what you are capable of." "If an idea won't leave you alone, that is the sign that you are the person being gifted with that dream and vision." "Service does not mean that you have to sacrifice your humanity." "If you're measuring your worth based on somebody else's standards it will be impossible to live up to that." "The only starts that we can make are small starts...one step at time." "Don't let that voice that tells you 'You are not enough' keep you from doing anything at all." Those Timestamps 00:43 - Am I enough? - YOU, purpose, and service 10:35 - Reckoning with discomfort 14:36 - Are you doing enough? 18:20 - Values and self-alignment 23:02 - Stop letting others decide for you 28:53 - The power of small steps 32:17 - The apple seed metaphor Show Notes: Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz Get on the early-bird notification list for the RYHSY Inner Circle |
Tue, 23 June 2020
**RSVP for the Agency Archetypes Training on 6/30 at 11am PST** This week, I'm talking about doubt and saying yes. More specifically, I'm going to talk about how, I've shifted from thinking that "doubt means don't" to seeing doubt as a requisite part of the raise your hand say yes process and what it has shown and taught me about living life in integrity and alignment with my values. I also tackle the commonly-heard phrase "If it's not a hell yes, it's a no" and offer a nuanced approach to both that phrase as well as the 5 different yes's I want you to consider, as well as the one that's the most important and easiest to ignore. My goal for this episode is to give you insight into things that get in your way that you can shift as well as some new ways to think about your obligations, priorities, and how what you most want is likely found in what you're most likely to avoid. Episode Quotes "We have to make peace with the doubt and know that it's a part of the process." "The hardest part is how to keep going. The hardest part is how to get back up when you've been humbled." "When we only say yes out of obligation, we are shutting off the flow of spirit." Those Timestamps 04:05 - Finding faith, Making peace with doubts 13:59 - When you stumble, you get back up 21:34 - The 'easy' and 'safe' yeses 26:32 - The 'obligatory' yes 36:56 - The 'OMG! I'll do it!' yes 37:42 - The 'Oh Fuck I kinda hate this I kinda love this!' yes 39:55 - Self-communion and self-agency Show Notes: RSVP for the Archetypes training Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz Get on the early-bird notification list for the RYHSY Inner Circle |
Tue, 16 June 2020
I am super excited to be bringing Natalie Lue back to the podcast. Natalie is an author, speaker, teacher, and podcaster at Baggage Reclaim Sessions, where she helps people get address all the things - lack of self-worth, habits, relationships - that are standing in their way of living the life that they want. Listen to my previous episode with Natalie on boundaries, emotions, and the dark side of people pleasing. (This episode was such an aha moment for me!) This episode was recorded the first week of May, so you’ll hear us talk about the COVID-19 lockdown (and what it has to teach us!), what to do when people are continuously letting you down, what it means to sit in our discomfort, the importance of self-awareness and slowing down before we reach burnout, what our relationships can teach us about ourselves, and how to even recognize what we actually want and need. Nat, you are a gift! Thank you for coming back on the show! Episode Quotes: "Burnout is not just a cause of work, burnout can occur in any area of our life." "We have to learn to read our surroundings and not just live in the past." "We have to recognize that each of us have our own personal bandwidth that encompasses our emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual health." "The more things that we say YES to that really we don't need to is the less bandwidth we have." "If we are always being all things to all people, we lose that self-connection." "Stop saying YES to things that make you feel like shit." Those Timestamps: 04:37 - Quarantine life reflections, slow down and dodge burnout 14:24 - How to deal with relationship anxiety 24:07 - Self-awareness and paying attention to one's needs 37:54 - Professor Life: understanding life's bandwidth 46:23 - Task numbing and what it means to sit in our discomfort 51:50 - When to say YES and when to say NO Show Notes: Get Tiffany's newsletter and stay in the know Inner Circle VIP list (for early-bird applications) |
Tue, 9 June 2020
This week, I'm tackling a question I get a lot: how do I balance slowing down with the big goals that I have for myself? Do I have to choose one or the other? Short answer: no. Longer answer: there's a lot to consider here. We’ve been programmed to think that BIG is BETTER. The thing is, playing big is often what our ego wants. And it's easy to demand of ourselves that we do ALL THE THINGS IMMEDIATELY. (Which only leads to burnout and not being able to make progress on much at all!) So where do you go instead? What if focusing on playing small is actually the starting place? If you’re someone who feels disconnected to your life, or you feel connected to your life but feel disconnected to yourself, then this one's for you. You'll hear about the value of getting granular with your life, why ‘sitting still’ could be empowering, keeping your focus on the life that you want, self-compassion, and taking bold actions. Enjoy! Things I said: "We can actually get closer to the lives that we want by learning how to play small in order to play big."
"The things that feel small might actually be the most powerful expressions of you and your gifts in the world."
"How we do one thing is how we do everything."
"In the hard moments, your number one job is to stay put."
"The core of the life you want is rooted in your values, personal agency, self-care and compassion." Those Timestamps: 02:00 - You've got big work to do 07:40 - Playing Big vs. Playing Small 15:10 - Getting granular with your life 22:38 - The power of 'sitting still' in hard moments 25:11 - Personal agency, self-care, self-compassion 34:25 - Ditching your "Yeah, But" 38:05 - Go play small, get granular! Show Notes: |
Tue, 2 June 2020
Rather than this week's regularly-scheduled episode, I'm using this time to address my commitment to learning and growing and being anti-racist. Please check out the resources in the show notes for further insight on how you can help and get involved. Show Notes: 75 Things White People Can Do for Racial Justice How to be an Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi White Fragility by Robin D'Angelo I'm Still Here: Black Dignity in a World Made for Whiteness by Austin Channing Brown |
Tue, 26 May 2020
This week, I’m joined by Gina Senarighi, relationship coach, retreat leader, speaker, and author specializing in human connection, intimacy, authenticity, shame-resilience, and alternative relationships. Yes. She does a lot and is so smart! Y'all are for a treat this week as we talk about how to live in relationship with ourselves and others, why putting all your eggs in the self-love basket may not be serving you, how to make the changes in your life (that actually stick!) and do the things that you love (even if you're not sure where to start!), what self-alignment at home and at work looks like and why pleasure is essential -- but shouldn't feel like a daunting endeavor. Enjoy, enjoy! Things that were said: "It's the micro changes that we make that builds whatever change we want long term." "Our relationships with other people are founded in the relationship we have with our self.” "Shame never motivates long term behavior change or sustainable changes in people's lives." "Sometimes learning to love yourself comes in learning along with somebody else." "When we start to savor the pleasures that we can add in to our day then it becomes less like all or nothing." Those Timestamps! 04:44 - Importance of micro changes to make big changes in your life 08:17 - How your relationship with yourself sets your relationship with others 10:31 - Practical tips to find your way back to yourself 14:05 - How to not shrink yourself in relationships 20:46 - Self-alignment at work and at home 27:38 - Exercises for self-checking 30:18 - How to take action on things that will make you feel better 36:34 - Why chasing self-love before thinking about relationships may not be serving you 38:11 - Ways to improve motivation and reliability in the things you do 45:23 - Permission to pleasure amidst our busy lives Show Notes: Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz |
Tue, 19 May 2020
This week, I'm taking a walk down memory lane to look at the things I've gotten wrong (some WAAAAAY wrong) in the past 5.5 years of doing this podcast. You'll hear my revelations on risk, self-care and burnout, tackling big goals, pleasure, and how everything (annoyingly so!!) starts at home. (I'll also share what I mean by that!) Aaaaand you'll hear me talk about why I'm comfortable sharing this list and what I'm doing about these revelations. Because this learning is part of the process and just because I've gotten things wrong in the past doesn't mean I can't keep going and bring my learning along with me! Episode Quotes "We cannot just say YES to the risk without also saying YES to the reverence." "There is something really beautiful about realizing that you are stronger without the shield of all the things you've convinced yourself make you stronger." "Self-care is a daily and ongoing devotion to yourself and the things you want to do." "Pleasure and delight are not frivolous." "The things that you want to do all starts with YOU and how are you showing up to yourself." "It's not about what you are doing, it's about who are you being." "The fix may not be quick, may not be comfortable, but it is available. Are you willing to show up anyway?" Timestamps 07:45—What I got wrong about embracing risks 20:07—Rethinking Self-care & Burnout 30:08—The value of going deeper (and what I'd missed before!) 36:47—Confession: I'm a bit of a 'ping-ponger' (and the value of holding your course) 40:04—Everything starts at home...and how you can apply this learning to your life! Show Notes: |
Tue, 12 May 2020
I’m so excited to chat again with Laura Jane Williams. She was one of my lovely guests over a year ago when I was doing my Money, Sex, Freedom series, where we talked about worth, parenting, and some sex stuff too. In this episode, you’ll hear us talking about writing, being an author, LJ’s books ‘Our Stop’ and ‘The Love Square’, social media and friendships, how unplugging from Instagram allowed her to like her friends more and be a better friend, Instagram boundaries, telling the truth about your life, and permission to feel pleasure and delight. Show Notes: Connect with Laura Jane Williams: Laura Jane's earlier RYHSY episode RYHSY episode on Impulse vs Fact Laura Jane's books: |
Tue, 5 May 2020
How do you build an entire handmade clothing empire out of a New Year's Day dare? That's exactly where my conversation with Tilly Walnes, of Tilly and the Buttons, starts. In this episode, you'll hear us talk about how she took sewing from hobby to business, how to maintain the spark for any creative endeavor, what to do if you want to make something but just cannot find the time (ahem...you'll hear me commit to something that I 100% didn't follow through on!), and how to get over the initial hurdles of getting started. (And let me know if you want to be accountability buddies on making something from Tilly's new book!) Show Notes: Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz Connect with Tilly: Tilly's Books: Tilly and the Buttons: Make it Simple: Easy, Speedy Sewing Projects to Stitch up in an Afternoon Tilly and the Buttons: Stretch!: Make Yourself Comfortable Sewing with Knit Fabrics |
Tue, 28 April 2020
Ahhh, this interview y'all. There is so much goodness here. This week, I'm talking with Holly Whitaker, founder of Tempest Sobriety School and The Temper, and author of the recent "Quit Like a Woman: The Radical Choice to Not Drink in a Culture Obsessed with Alcohol." Holly also played a huge part in my decision to quit drinking, over three years ago, and I loved getting to have this conversation with her. Even though we recorded pre-coronavirus, everything we talked about is relevant to where we are today. You'll hear us cover pivotal life moments, why sometimes feeling guilty is okay, how to decide what you owe yourself vs what you owe others, non-linear paths of learning, and why you might need to live in a way that allows you to have constant interventions. We also talk about why it's okay not to be okay and how showing up is part of the healing. Show Notes: 31 Days to Flow (open through 4/29!) Holly's Book: Quit Like a Woman: The Radical Choice to Not Drink in a Culture Obsessed with Alcohol.
Direct download: 314_-_Holly_Whitaker_on_Quitting_Not_Giving_Up_and_Constant_Interventions.mp3
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Tue, 21 April 2020
This week, I'm going behind the scenes of all my values talk to show you what values look like in action in our lives. Right now. During the COVID-19 pandemic. Yep. Even then. You'll also get to hear me tell two different versions of how I could be showing up right now (it's my Sliding Doors moment!): one that involves chasing the values I'm "supposed" to want: success and family. And another that looks like aligning myself with my personal #1 value: integrity. It's a journey! Enjoy, enjoy! Show Notes:
Direct download: 313_-_Values_Sliding_Doors_and_Permission_Right_Now.mp3
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Tue, 14 April 2020
This week, I'm sharing my favorite 9-minute grounding ritual. I've been doing this (imperfectly) since February and I'm finding it incredibly useful to help me stay focused and grounded these days. Enjoy, enjoy and if you benefit from this practice (or your own variation of it!), please let me know! I'd love to hear about your experience with it! Show Notes:
Direct download: 312_-_My_9-minute_Daily_Grounding_Ritual.mp3
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Tue, 7 April 2020
What we're currently exploring is how you can Be Your Own Anchor in times of great uncertainty. Which...yes. That's where we are right now. (But it's also where we've always been, just with different specifics.) This week, I'm talking with my dear friend and teacher, Lacy Young. You'll hear us talk about living with (and in) overwhelm, a very different definition of thriving than what we've been taught it should look like, how to ground yourself when you're in a spin, and what we can learn from wildflowers and melting ice. We also cover: anxiety, self-compassion, identity, caretaking without losing yourself, and finding your own voice and power in the midst of all the chaos. Show Notes: RYHSY Inner Circle Early-bird Applications Get on the 31 Days to Flow waitlist Connect with Lacy: Lacy's previous RYHSY episodes:
Direct download: 311_-_Lacy_Young_on_Presence_Self-Compassion_and_the_Shower_Floor.mp3
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Tue, 31 March 2020
Today's episode includes my thoughts about where we all find ourselves, why slowing down is more critical than ever right now (and how it can lead to more productivity than you realize!), and a story about the doubt and uncertainty that can show up when you speak up for something you need. There's also an invitation to live from a place that doesn't create resentment (yay!!) as well as to think about what you can practice now to bring into your post-Coronavirus life. PS. YOU ARE DOING GREAT AND I LOVE YOU. KEEP GOING. Show Notes:
Direct download: 310_-_A_story_about_agency._And_a_reminder_that_this_is_not_normal..mp3
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Fri, 27 March 2020
Oooh it's fun to talk about raising your hand and saying yes to those big! bold! moves! isn't it? But what if I told you that the little things, the seemingly unimportant ones, are way more critical for you to focus on. (Hint: they are!) Show Notes:
Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz to find out how you're giving away your power and what to do to get it back!
Direct download: 309_-_Friday_Quickie_Saying_yes_to_the_little_things..mp3
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Tue, 24 March 2020
Hi hi. Sooo...how do you keep going when everything around you is bonkers? While I don't have an absolute answer, this week I'm sharing how I'm proceeding with my life and business in this time of Coronavirus. I'll also share the span of emotions I felt this week, from panic to fear to a glimmer of hope...and how I dealt with all those feelings and what they told me about my business. Show Notes: RYHSY Inner Circle Early-bird Applications Get on the 31 Days to Flow waitlist Did you leave a RYHSY review? Request your sticker here!
Direct download: 308_-_How_Im_Proceeding_Life__Work_in_the_Time_of_Coronavirus.mp3
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Fri, 20 March 2020
We talk a lot about trust 'round these parts, and today, I'm diving deeper into what the practice of trusting yourself really looks like (with a little help from our good friend, The Rock). Show Notes:
Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz to find out how you're giving away your power and what to do to get it back!
Direct download: 307_-_Friday_Quickie_But_do_you_trust__yourself___Lets_discuss..m4a
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Tue, 17 March 2020
Y'all. Uncertainty is maybe the only thing that feels certain right now. LET'S TALK ABOUT HOW TO DEAL, eh? This week, I'm sharing ways you might be able to stay...grounded? rooted? as sane as possible? during everything that's going on right now in the world and in our lives. PS. You're not alone. You're doing great. Keep going. I love you. Show Notes: RYHSY Inner Circle Early-bird Applications Get on the 31 Days to Flow waitlist Did you leave a RYHSY review? Request your sticker here!
Direct download: 306_-_What_to_do_with_Your_Uncertainty.mp3
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Fri, 13 March 2020
This week's quickie is my response to a listener question. Elizabeth wrote wondering "Keeping at something can yield a masterpiece, or it can result in not much. So how does it work? Is it a question of passion? Enjoying the process but being detached from the result? And does everyone have the ability to keep going or does it require a certain kind insight into yourself?" And while I don't have a Clear Cut Answer, I do have many thoughts. Enjoy, enjoy! Show Notes:
Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz to find out how you're giving away your power and what to do to get it back!
Direct download: 305_-_Friday_Quickie_Listener_Q_-_When_and_How_to_Keep_Going.mp3
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Tue, 10 March 2020
James-Olivia Chu Hillman is back for part 2 of our episode. We talk about how to start figuring out what you want, what it means (and what it doesn't!) to be in right relationship with yourself and other people, what to do when others aren't supportive of your work, and so much more. Enjoy, enjoy! Show Notes: RYHSY Inner Circle Early-bird Applications Get on the 31 Days to Flow waitlist Did you leave a RYHSY review? Request your sticker here!
Direct download: 304_-_Relationships__Truth_Pt_2_with_James-Olivia_Chu_Hillman.mp3
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Fri, 6 March 2020
We all know that celebrating our wins is important, but it can also be hard (and time-consuming and expensive!). This week, I'm challenging you to try out a new way of celebrating, one that doesn't require any extra time or money AND might just be more impactful to your life than that 2-week beach vacation! Show Notes:
Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz to find out how you're giving away your power and what to do to get it back!
Direct download: 303_-_Friday_Quickie_A_New_Way_to_Celebrate.mp3
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Tue, 3 March 2020
This week I'm talking with relational life and leadership coach James-Olivia Chu Hillman and we covered so much ground, including how what we've been taught about relationships may not be serving us, why we need to consider our relationships to ourselves before thinking of other people, how to start telling the truth about what we want, and the distinctions between discomfort, pain, and suffering. James-Olivia is one of my favorite people and this first-half of our conversation won't disappoint. Enjoy, enjoy!! Show Notes: Get on the 31 Days to Flow waitlist Did you leave a RYHSY review? Request your sticker here! |
Fri, 28 February 2020
Sooo...you say you want a certain something for your life, yes? But is it possible you're not even playing in the *right* pool to make it happen? Let's discuss! Show Notes:
Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz to find out how you're giving away your power and what to do to get it back!
Direct download: 301_-_Friday_Quickie_Kiddie_pool_vs_deep_end.mp3
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Tue, 25 February 2020
Ahh! Episode 300 is live (with a MASSIVE giveaway)! Listen to find out all the times over the past 300 episodes and 5.5 years when I thought I *couldn't* do something, but (spoiler!) I ended up being able to follow through. You'll also hear about some very specific things I've changed my mind on since I started RYHSY as well as a few unanswered questions I still have for myself and my work. You'll also get to hear me answer a few listener questions, including how I'm planning to move my family and biz to France this summer, what my book is going to be about, and what to do if/when you don't know what to do! Show Notes: Watch the 300th episode replay! https://www.tiffanyhan.com/ryhsy-live The 300th episode giveaway! https://www.tiffanyhan.com/giveaway First solo show, Ep. 23 The CrazyFaith Episode - https://www.tiffanyhan.com/blog/crazyfaith/ RYHSY Ep. 251: My Money, Sex, and Freedom Confessions - https://www.tiffanyhan.com/blog/mymoneysexfreedomconfessions Agency Archetypes Quiz - https://www.tiffanyhan.com/quiz Get on the 31 Days to Flow waitlist - https://31daystoflow.com Did you leave a RYHSY review? Request your sticker here! - https://www.tiffanyhan.com/sticker |
Fri, 21 February 2020
Soooo...we all know that it's important to act from a place of personal agency, not giveaway our power, and keep fear out of the driver's seat of our lives. But what does it look like in action? I'm going to show you this week. Show Notes:
Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz to find out how you're giving away your power and what to do to get it back!
Direct download: 299_-_Friday_Quickie_Going_from_head_to_heart..mp3
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Tue, 18 February 2020
Sweets, when it comes to living that life you want for yourself, you know *a ton.* But there are also so many things you can't see. And knowing what they are might just help get you to your next steps. This week, I'm sharing 8 tough-love and grace-filled tidbits to help get you closer to your personal agency so that you can take strides toward all those things you want to do, be, and say. And also, know this: you're not alone. You're doing great. Keep going. Show Notes: Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz to find out how you're giving away your power and what to do to get it back! |
Fri, 14 February 2020
This week's quickie is an answer to a listener question about how to move on from a not-great job situation that involves a friend, an investment of resources, and the knowing that staying isn't actually an option. The question is: What are some ways of moving on without the guilt? And my answer is: It may not be possible to completely dodge the guilt, buuuuut it is possible to find peace. Listen in for more!
Direct download: 297_-_Friday_Quickie_How_do_I_move_forward_without_the_guilt_.mp3
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Tue, 11 February 2020
Laura McKowen is a writer, teacher, and retreat leader and her first book We are the Luckiest: The Surprising Magic of a Sober Life came out in January. This week, we cover so many topics, including her book-writing process (she hits it Fleabag-style!), the painful necessity of going back to relive the hardest parts, what to do about loneliness, what happens when people around you don't get it, what to do with convenient lying, and how to start working towards having just one version of yourself. This conversation, y'all. It's good and big and powerful. We talk about sobriety, but also about SO MUCH MORE. Enjoy, enjoy! Show Notes: Connect with Laura: Laura's previous RYHSY interview |
Fri, 7 February 2020
This week, I'm asking the one little question that will both help you realize what goals to set down and which to hold on to AND help you keep going when that going gets tough (which it inevitably will). Happy Friday. You're amazing. Show Notes:
Connect with Tiffany on Insta
Direct download: 295_-_Friday_Quickie_One_Little_Question_that_is_secretly_big.mp3
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Tue, 4 February 2020
Bridget Watson Payne is back this week to lay down some brand new insight into time management, productivity, and what we all need to stop believing about how many minutes we have in a day. THIS CONVERSATION IS SO GOOD and Bridget's new book "How Time is on Your Side" was written for us. Show Notes: Did you leave a RYHSY review? Request your sticker here! Submit a q for a future Friday Quickie episode Get on the 31 Days to Flow waitlist Connect with Bridget: Bridget's new book: How Time is On Your Side Bridget's previous RYHSY appearance Overwhelmed: How to Work, Love, and Play When No One Has the Time Paperback by Brigid Schulte |
Fri, 31 January 2020
This week, I'm sharing a nugget about self-care that changed everything for me!! Enjoy, enjoy! Show Notes: Connect with Tiffany on Insta
Direct download: 293_-_Friday_Quickie_What_You_May_Not_Realize_about_Self-Care.mp3
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Tue, 28 January 2020
This week, I'm talking with Jolene Park about something that's SO IMPORTANT to us over-ambitious, wanna-do-it-all humans: how to calm down, reset, and nourish our nervous systems! It's time to get out of the frantic spin, y'all, and move towards peace, progress, and the lives we really want. We also talk about gray-area drinking, how all kinds of numbing isn't serving us (but why we do it anyways), our animal instincts that drive us into fight, flight, or freeze, and how we can learn to sit still. It's good -- enjoy, enjoy! Show Notes: Submit a q for a future Friday Quickie episode Did you leave a RYHSY review? Request your sticker here! Connect with Jolene: Jolene's TEDx talk on Gray Area Drinking + her NOURISH system RYHSY On My Quitting Drinking Story The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. |
Fri, 24 January 2020
Grace. It's a big deal and a really powerful force that you can use to make your life feel so much better. This week, I'm sharing how I use the concept of Grace Over Drama (taught to me by my friend Tammi Salas) to change how I move through my day. Show Notes: Connect with Tiffany on Insta RYHSY Ep. 227: Tammi Salas on Taking a Social Media Break Tiffany on Tammi's Unruffled Podcast: |
Tue, 21 January 2020
Even though we're only a few weeks into the new year, I'm already learning A TON, so naturally I'm passing that learning along to you. In this episode, you'll learn why I've amended my word for 2020 (core) into a phrase that points deeper towards how I want to *feel*, what my three-year sobriety anniversary showed me about myself, and why I think mid-game cortisone shots in the knee are a bad idea for football players (it's a metaphor, y'all. roll with me.) 2020 is shaping up to be full of revelations and I am STOKED. Enjoy the ones that have showed up so far!! (And thank you for being here!) Show Notes: Submit a q for a future Friday Quickie episode Did you leave a RYHSY review? Request your sticker here! |
Fri, 17 January 2020
Ahhh! This whole living your Raise Your Hand Say Yes life can be super uncomfortable, can't it? This week, I've got just what you need to (finally?) (finally!) be able to start taking some steps. You're welcome. Show Notes:
Connect with Tiffany on Insta |
Tue, 14 January 2020
This week, I'm going behind the scenes of my word for 2020 as well as what I did to find it and how I'm working with it for the year. If you're interested in finding a guiding word for your year, have a listen. And if you've already chosen your word, the practice I outline here will help you take your word deeper and integrate it even more into your life. And once you choose your word, let me know! I'd love to hear it! Show Notes: Submit a q for a future Friday Quickie episode Did you leave a RYHSY review? Request your sticker here! |
Fri, 10 January 2020
What does a pot full of beans have to do with your life? Maybe everything! Listen in to hear a tale of persistence, grit, resilience, and figuring things out as I go. Happy Friday! Show Notes:
Connect with Tiffany on Insta |
Tue, 7 January 2020
It's the first episode of 2020! Huzzah!...or not? Whether you're ready to dive headfirst into the new decade or you're still trying to wrap up the last one, I've got you covered with this episode. We're going to talk about endings, beginnings, and the questions I want you to consider as you think about the start of the year. (And also: wherever you are is beautiful and wonderful. YOU ARE DOING GREAT.) Aaaand in case you need them for reference, here are the questions for you to consider: *How do you want to feel? *Where are you finding meaning? *What's going to bring you peace? *What are you ready to release? *What are you ready to find your way back to? Show Notes: |
The Tiffany Han Show (formerly Raise Your Hand Say Yes)
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